Our decision on having a baby came after lots of discussion and thought. It’s a big decision to make and one that we didn’t take lightly. Starting a family has always been a goal for the both of us. We felt like we were ready to start trying and to take our relationship to the next stage as well as our life journey.
Why did we decide to have a baby?
It was a very personal decision to make. I recently turned 28 and I always planned to have kids before the 30 mark. This was one of the deciding factors for us. We wanted to still have the energy, love and time to raise our children and watch them grow. We also wanted our parents to be there in the experience as well.
Besides that reason, we also researched and found that the best time to have a baby is before 32 years of age. There are fewer complications and problems during pregnancy. We plan to have more than one child and therefore it would be better to start a little earlier if we could, in order to really experience pregnancy and parenthood with our first child and not feel rushed with the second.
Family for us has always been a huge priority in our lives. We felt that it’s good timing as we feel more capable financially but also mentally.
3 signs we knew we were ready
Sign 1: Open communication
Firstly, we spoke and have long discussions on having a family but also when to have a family. We both made sure that we were both ready. The whole experience was new to us and every step of the discussion we tried our best to check-in with each other.
Sign 2: Are we ready for the responsibility?
Raising Buckwheat together was another sign to show us that we were ready. From training him, feeding him and giving him the love and care he needed. We love Buckwheat like a child already and to expand the family would be wonderful. We obviously know that it’s different with a human baby but it was definitely a great step towards building the much needed parenting skills to prepare us for this decision.
Sign 3: Overcoming problems together
Lastly, we felt that we had overcome a number of challenges and problems in our relationship thus far. Being together for over 8 years, we are definitely not perfect and try to humble ourselves with each new experience or challenge that comes at us. But at the end of the day, we come together to find solutions and work together really well. Getting married unified this love and it just felt like a natural step towards the right path to not only express our love for each other but to create a new meaning for purpose in life.
We got married on January 8th 2015 and we recently celebrated our first year wedding anniversary. As we reach this wonderful mile stone in our relationship, we know that 2016 will be a big year for us and for our family. Making the decision to have a baby is the first step in the journey. We know that there is a lot of challenges and new experiences ahead of us. For now we’ll take it one day at a time and enjoy the whole experience together.